Jingle Jangle.. for whom the bell tolls.
Getting Married, it would seem everyone is doing it. Very weird as well because at my age I have already gone through the baby boom and wedding bells with all my friends but with the advent of divorce and *complicated* relationships the wedding bug is hitting everyone hard once again.( I am not even going to mention how many pregnant fairies I know..LOL)
I have been asked many times if this is something I would do again and to be quite honest I don’t know. I was never really asked the first time around and that was a disastrous relationship even before it began and being married made it a difficult one to leave. Something about marriage makes people want to beat a dead horse even if its lame.. My marriage was a lame horse from the start but there I was dragging it around with me in the hopes that it would miraculously get up and ride off with me into the sunset like one of those Mills n Boon’s novels my mom read ad nauseum.
You see being a girl we all want the Fairytale Prince Charming to sweep us off our feet and live “Happily Ever After..” But this is real life and horses scare me and If some guy approached me with one of my shoes I will ask him WTF he is doing with my shoe and kick him in the nuts..
So I have been accused of being slightly jaded and even though I don’t agree and feel that they are confusing jaded behaviour with that of a cautious manner, I don’t see how I can be faulted for feeling that way (if I was indeed jaded and I am not admitting to anything just yet).
I am a difficult person but with simple needs. And marriage is not the be all and end of all of my life. Honestly now guys, not being married does not mean I will burn in hell for all eternity for dipping into extra-curricular with SexyG nor does it mean I am less of a person for being single.. It just means that I am not married. Do I want to be loved!?, Yes – but do I want to be married just because its the next step?!, No.
My sister once told me that she doesn’t condone sex before marriage, and feels that I am giving my milk away for free.(She said all this with love you see) I then had to explain to her how since we are likening me to livestock I would like to point out that the farmboy is paying dearly to tap this… 
Marriage, is this something I am going to do again?? I don’t know for sure yet, BUT IF I DO – I know it will be for the right reasons and not because someone told me its the next move.. oh, and someone has to ask me first..Properly.
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I don’t know if it’s worse at your age or my age…like, do people expect it more because you’ve done it once already or do they expect it more from me because it’s that fucking “next step”?
The only reasons I’ve found to get married so far are:
1. Presents. Awesome.
2. Easier to explain to close-minded folk.
3. Tax Breaks? Do we get those here for being married?
And that’s it. We’re quite commited without rings thanks and we have nothing to prove.
Now my dear…what constitutes as properly in the book of Briget? Down on one knee or something original and sufficiently geeky?
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Tara – I don’t know hey.. at your age there is immense pressure to get married and have anklebiters.. At my age there are just the looks and frank questions that are very awkward.. So perhaps it is harder for the first timers
I like reason number 1 and number 2.. particularly reason number 1
But yeah.. being committed without rings should say more about your relationship than if you were married and your commitment is reinforced by a contract that says if you cheat the other half gets everything
And to answer your question ..LOL.. asking me properly entails just asking me. I have NEVER been asked and it would be nice I suppose. I was told I am getting married all those years ago and I was too young and overwhelmed to argue..so ja, just asking me would be nice…
I am one of those getting married this year… and I can honestly say its not because it is simply “the next step”. I never wanted to get married, and then I got my feet swept out from under me!
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Frik you and your fairytale bloody romance.. Gaaah! You making us look bad
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I couldn’t agree with your more!!!!
Moooooooooooo
Gilz – when you say *your* you mean me, hey.. not my sister..LOL!
Yes. Properly. I couldn’t help but chuckle over your last few words. It took my husband almost 2 years to ask me … properly. His first attempt involved him giving me a ring, which, incidentally, looks like an engagement ring. I say this because that was all he did. No getting down on one knee … no flowers … no wine … not even one measly question. A couple of months later, he had the nerve to get angry when I asked what the ring was for! Men!